I wonder what you are referring to as well. Also ‘weaponizing discomfort’ sounds like something inappropriate while actually discomfort is a real thing and no one has to stand for it (in a certain degree). Not caring at all if you are causing others discomfort is the definition of selfishness. Recompensating somebody with a big tip, because you are a dick doesn’t make you less of a prick.
Weaponizing discomfort is toxic because it uses confusion and shame as control, making someone feel small and off balance instead of safe and understood, turning communication into emotional pressure rather than clarity.
Shame is as old as time, but people are always responsible for their own feelings.
Put another way sticks and stone may break my bones, but some people (kratzkopf) will always find some reason to justify being offended.
I wonder what you are referring to as well. Also ‘weaponizing discomfort’ sounds like something inappropriate while actually discomfort is a real thing and no one has to stand for it (in a certain degree). Not caring at all if you are causing others discomfort is the definition of selfishness. Recompensating somebody with a big tip, because you are a dick doesn’t make you less of a prick.
Weaponizing discomfort is toxic because it uses confusion and shame as control, making someone feel small and off balance instead of safe and understood, turning communication into emotional pressure rather than clarity.
Shame is as old as time, but people are always responsible for their own feelings.
Put another way sticks and stone may break my bones, but some people (kratzkopf) will always find some reason to justify being offended.