Hard to say. Having only experienced having a girlfriend this year in my mid 30s, the breakup turned all the memories to pain. I think I’d have overall been happier without them at all. Especially since the relationship had come at a time when I finally felt securely past my traumas and had learned to love myself as I was. Now I have to try to do that all over again with freshly resurfaced and reinforced trauma.


A relationship ending because we grew old together or something is fine to me, at least theoretically. It’s the rejection that hurts. The knowledge that everything up to that point meant nothing to her in the end